Franzie Giordani, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
It sounds like you're feeling this right now.
That makes complete sense.
I'm glad you're here. Let's work through this together.
Describe what's happening, or tap what's closest.
Both are evidence-based. Pick what feels right for where you are right now.
It sounds like you're feeling this right now.
That makes complete sense.
I'm glad you're here. Let's work through this together.
Your brain is doing exactly what it was designed to do - and that design is why heartbreak hurts this much.
"Close relationships are mediated by the brain's opioid system - the same system responsible for pain relief and euphoria. When a relationship ends, opioid production drops abruptly. Your body enters withdrawal."
"The yearning, the obsessive thoughts, the physical ache in your chest - these are biochemically identical to heroin or morphine withdrawal. The only difference is context: how you interpret the symptoms."
The exercise is slightly different depending on your role. Be honest - there's no right answer.
Your list is only as powerful as your access to it. Here's when and how to use it.
Save your list in your notes app, journal, or Blueprint. This list is outsourced wisdom - your rational mind speaking for when your frontal lobes go offline.
The hypnagogic state (the edge of sleep) is when the mind is most receptive to new information. Read your list in these windows to help your brain update its picture of this person.
When you feel the pull - when you're about to text them, when a memory floods in, when the craving peaks - read the list first. This is an additional review trigger beyond morning/evening.
Grief filters out bad memories over time. Add to the list as things resurface. Keep it honest and current.