Insights are great but they are not enough to help us heal and grow. Consistently applying the wisdom they represent does. This is why I encourage my clients to apply what I call The BluePrint Method — the process to ensure that strategies developed to address issues are consistently applied.
Strategies developed consciously as a result of processing energy shifts rather than unconsciously reacting are used to create the blueprint.
Why Good Advice Doesn't Work Most of the Time
The reason I came up with The BluePrint Method is the same reason so many people think counseling, coaching, self-help books, workshops, diets, and therapy "don't work."
Clichés are cliché's for a reason. "It works if you work it" is soooo true.
Solutions developed through thrilling insights don't appear to "work" most of the time — not because there was anything wrong with the actual plan. It's because change is hard. Hard because our brains are like forests with well-trodden paths created by the combination of environments filled with cues which trigger repetitive unconscious reactions. It's like dominoes — this happens, then that happens.
I can't tell you how many times I have noticed myself and others arrive at the same insights and brilliant solutions over and over. Then life takes over and we just keep repeating the patterns.
Eventually, just by repeatedly noticing the pattern, change will happen — but by applying The BluePrint Method, you can 10x progress.
Where insights can come from
- A TV show or movie that hit differently
- Something that struck you at church or a spiritual setting
- A conversation with a wise friend, elder, or even a child
- Therapy or coaching
- Self-help books or workshops
- A moment of quiet clarity you've been sitting with
The BluePrint Method
Here's the system. Five steps. No magic. Just structure.
Get a Journal
This will be your BluePrint, your Policies & Procedures Manual, your Bible, or your Constitution of the United States of _____. Pick your metaphor — the point is, this is the document that holds the strategy. Not scattered notes. Not an app you'll forget exists. One dedicated place.
Document the Strategies
Write down the strategies developed to interrupt and transform the patterns you've identified. What triggers the old behavior? What do you do instead? What does the new response actually look like on a Tuesday afternoon when you're tired and the kids are demanding?
Why Steps 3 and 4 Are So Powerful
When someone goes to a hypnotist, they are put into the hypnagogic state — the liminal state of sleepiness, half awake and half asleep — so the hypnotist can access the subconscious mind and give it directions.
We naturally enter this state twice per day: before bed and before rising. This is why reviewing your blueprint at those times is so powerful. You are essentially giving your own subconscious mind its directions — on purpose, with intention. No appointment needed.
Practice Sleep Hygiene
This one is not optional and it's not a footnote. Sleep is when your brain consolidates learning and change. When you're sleep-deprived, your prefrontal cortex — the part responsible for decision-making, impulse control, and following through on new strategies — goes offline. You are physically less capable of using your blueprint when you're tired.
Review Before You Sleep and First Thing in the Morning
Read your blueprint twice a day: before you go to sleep and first thing when you wake up. This is how you interrupt the pattern of forgetting. Most people review once and then don't think about it again until something goes wrong and they're right back where they started.
Put Framed Photos Where You'll See Them
Put a framed photo of your blueprint's cover next to your bed and in your line of vision in other places you spend time — your fridge, your desk at work, your bathroom mirror. Somewhere you'll see it daily without having to go looking for it.
It doesn't have to say "BluePrint Method" on it. It can be an image that symbolizes the person you will become when you're no longer controlled by the old patterns. Something meaningful to you, even if no one else would understand why.
You don't need more insight. You need more repetition. The BluePrint Method isn't about discovering new things — it's about consistently applying the things you already know. Insights come from anywhere. The system is what makes them stick.
What Goes Into Your Blueprint: Real Examples
Your blueprint entries don't have to sound like affirmations. They should sound like you — direct, specific, grounded in your actual language. Here's what that looks like in practice:
"I am an intelligent woman with exceptional comprehension skills. Chances are, if I am confused and anxious and having a hard time being understood by someone, it's because they are full of shit."
This client needed a statement that cut through gaslighting in real time — something she could repeat to herself when her nervous system was screaming that she was the problem.
"Lack of communication and consistency is non-verbal communication; now use that information and decide if this connection is the kind of connection you want for yourself."
This client needed to move from "maybe I'm overthinking this" to "I have data, and now I need to act on it." The blueprint entry bridges that gap.
These aren't generic positive statements. They're coping statements developed in session — personalized to the specific pattern, in the client's own voice. That's what your blueprint holds. Not vague goals. Specific, usable language for the specific moments where the old pattern shows up.
The BluePrint Method Works Better With a Guide
ReGroundNow helps you document your patterns, set daily review reminders, and practice the skills in your blueprint — with audio prompts and timers so you don't have to track anything while you're in it.
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